Admit When You Are Wrong

A sure sign of a mature person is one that can admit when they are wrong. Yet, it seems admitting one is wrong is a difficult thing for many people, and, while this can be associated with mental illnesses it is also a basic part of ego, pride and selfishness. Many people would rather loose plausibility than look bad by admitting they are wrong.

Admitting you are wrong, when you clearly are, even if it hurts the ego, does add to your credibility next time you are dealing with that person. If you are one of those folks that will never, ever admit being wrong or that you are defeated will lead people to simply not want to work with you or deal with you. The logic for that is simple, the fact you are "never wrong" really annoys people, as those people tend to be extremely counter productive, very argumentative to anyone that disagrees with them and are willing to sacrifice anyone or any thing just to "be right".

It may, on the outside, give you the feeling of moral superiority, but in reality you are doing nothing but making people not want to deal with you and think you are a jerk. Additionally, if you are not suffering from some narcissistic mental illness, you know, deep inside, that you are wrong and that you've been a huge jerk and are just putting on a show for the world. Most importantly a show nobody really cares to see.

However, in a good portion of situations not admitting you are wrong is also tied with not being willing to accept the consequences for ones actions. They would rather fight, lie and scream than take responsibility for their actions. That is what has been the root of our 3+ year battle. If, upon our first mediation the lady that stalked and harassed my child on the school playground would have simply said "yeah, I was harsh to your daughter, my bad, sorry" and said something similar to our kid (in our presence), it would have all been over. We didn't even expect her to apologize for being mad at our kid, just for reacting so incredibly over the top, just to ease her fear of adults. We would have never been friends, but it would have been over. Instead, however, she kept (and keeps) slinging mud back at us that has yet to stick, in hopes of vindicating herself by finding fault with us. In doing so has burned more bridges and made even a bigger ass of herself. Which is another of the many reason we believe she suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Consequently, to this day our daughter is afraid to ever defend herself in any way for fear of the kids parents yelling at her, and that just isn't right.

The bigger person can just buck up and take it, only a very small person acts that way.