Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder

Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder, also called negativistic personality disorder, refers to a disorder of passive disobedience. Many times the sufferer is only partly aware of what they are actually doing. Given the passive nature of their illness, and lack of personal responsibility they are willing to accept, any sort of personal or working relationship with the sufferer is difficult. There are also some serious issues that can be passed on to a child if the Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder sufferer is a parent.

When given a task they really do not want to do, they will consciously, or subconsciously, take so long to get going on the task, or take so long doing it by moving slowly toward the finish, that it will not be completed. If the sufferer has been invited to an event he or she does not really want to go to they will simply take so long getting ready for it, it's over by the time they arrive.

Common symptoms of Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder include frequently blaming forgetfulness, or other people, for their lack of completing tasks, fear of intimacy, dependency, authority or competition, chronic tardiness and forgetfulness, lying, procrastination, losing things, constantly complaining, and the like are frequently signs of Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder.

Anger or hostility will rarely be shown openly by a Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder sufferer, but will more than likely be expressed via notes, letters, emails and other less personal forms of communication. This is the "passive" behavior of the disorder.

Treatment for the disorder are not really fully understood since many times they leave treatment claiming it did no good, and not completing the treatment. They are quite often very resistant to understanding or accepting how their behavior affects anyone around them and often insist it's their own problem, not the problem of the sufferer.

Supportive psychotherapy has had good outcomes, but psychotherapy for these patients can have many problems. If one fulfulls the demands of the patient, you are in effect supporting the behavior, if you do not, they take it as rejection, therefore great resentment can grow against the doctor.

Relationships With A Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder Sufferer

Having a close relationship with a Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder sufferer is trying, to say the least. The sufferer typically tries to manipulate themselves into a dependency role with their partners, children and coworkers.

What this does for them is allows them to feel that these people will do their jobs for them, such as running errands and taking care of every day tasks of their life or their jobs. If this is not done they then have somebody to blame when the tasks are not completed.

Typically Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder sufferers are not assertive up front, they do not clearly communicate their own needs or expectations, but only complain when they are not met, or blame if called upon to answer for a lack of completion.

If you do not wish to play along with the disorder, your relationship will likely be very shortlived. The only way not to pander to it is to simple treat them like everybody else, clearly outline expectations, and call upon them to answer for it when they do not meet those expectations. Clearly, they will become uncomfortable and feel they are being unfairly singled out, and will likely quite the job or end the relationship.

If in a relationship situation, I would suspect after ending the relationship, somebody with this disorder would be a prime candidate for a stalker, so one must exercise caution in such a situation.

Relationships With A Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder Sufferer

Having a close relationship with a Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder sufferer is trying, to say the least. The sufferer typically tries to manipulate themselves into a dependency role with their partners, children and coworkers.

What this does for them is allows them to feel that these people will do their jobs for them, such as running errands and taking care of every day tasks of their life or their jobs. If this is not done they then have somebody to blame when the tasks are not completed.

Typically Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder sufferers are not assertive up front, they do not clearly communicate their own needs or expectations, but only complain when they are not met, or blame if called upon to answer for a lack of completion.

If you do not wish to play along with the disorder, your relationship will likely be very shortlived. The only way not to pander to it is to simple treat them like everybody else, clearly outline expectations, and call upon them to answer for it when they do not meet those expectations. Clearly, they will become uncomfortable and feel they are being unfairly singled out, and will likely quite the job or end the relationship.

If in a relationship situation, I would suspect after ending the relationship, somebody with this disorder would be a prime candidate for a stalker, so one must exercise caution in such a situation.