verbally and psychologically abusive neighbor
after two years of subtle psychological harrassment aimed mainly at me, now both my husband and I (and to some extent our child) are suddenly faced with verbal harassment by our neighbors (man and woman)..mainly from the man. We have been trying to build a very small an addition to our house. While we have had a good amount of support from many other neighbors in writing, we have had extremely stringent opposition from neighbors on either side both of whom have teamed up and resorted to several psychological, verbal and physical harassment tactics to weaken our resolve in the hopes that we will we eventually cave in and leave this neighborhood.
We have gone through all the legal entities and done the right thing to get our approvals for this addition and we have won to date much to the distress of our neighbors. Needless to say our success seems to have served to only fuel the anger of both already angry and bitter parties who incidentally have everything that one could desire in terms of space. Our addition is respectful of the history, minimally visible, and very modest space-wise (less than 500 sq ft). On the day of our legal victory one of the (4) neighbors cam forth and verbally abused me in front of my husband and lawyer in a hearing room full of people....since then he has proceeded to verbally harass both of us whenever he gets a chance such as when we are out running errands and happen to cross paths. When my husband asked him to stop this behavior and informed him that he left us no choice other than to have a restraining order imposed on him he said very boldly to "go ahead". This man has some serious anger management issues which we have witnessed over the past few years and been alarmed by. I know this man is capable of violence. I am afraid to walk out the door; I am afraid for my family. He has already called our house once to harass us and when asked to stop his response was to tell us to have our number changed. We have already called the police on the other neighbor once due to physical harassment and he seems to have backed off. Wonder if there is any other way to handle this in a peaceful way first. We have no idea where this intense wave of anger and hatred has come from. We have been very nice to them; neither my husband nor I are confrontational people oftening shying away from conflict altogether. We now know this man is filled with reckless anger and may hurt us. What was a fairly normal life seems to have now been displaced by one of anxiety, fear and sadness at these people's behavior all because we are trying to carve out a slightly better life for ourselves that we are perfectly within our rights to do. Any suggestions on how to deal with these people?