Neighbors~ one is a habitual liar and spouse is violent
For 4 years now we have had one problem after another with one of our neighbors. The wife has caused many problems with rumors and lies. The husband is violent and reactive. We have always tried calling them out on the lies but they just cover them with more lies. We have let it go feeling like prisoners in our home to avoid these people. We have had trouble with the lies and his yelling afflicted upon our children. So we can not go outside or attend any neighborhood events because we want to stay away from them.
Recently this neighbor decided to take it upon herself to "rescue" another neighbors outdoor small dog from the cold weather. She did this while I was away and no other neighbors were around. The next day she calls me and tells me all about how she took the dog and it will now be happy and safe. I called my husband and told him right then that she would blame this on me and sure enough she did! She told the dog owner I stole the dog! So he calls and in defense I tell him everything she told me about stealing the dog and that she took it to her mothers house. He had filed a report that the dog was stolen but had no leads. So instead of calling the detective he goes to them and confronts them and of course lets them know I was the one that told him. So she and her husband lie and say I am crazy. The husband tells the owner of the dog that he will beat down our door and take us down right now. The dog owner said you will go to jail, don't mess with them. So next our phone starts ringing at 10 PM. Over and Over no messages and switching from cell to home phones. The next morning it starts again. This time a message was left saying " I don't want to fight I just want to ask you a question." So my husband and I decide that since this a criminal act we should go to the police. Today we went and filed a report and a complaint. Of course the detective calls them and tells them they are to have no contact with us at all or they will go immediately to jail. I come home and the wife is at the dog owners house...saying God knows what! Oh and to top it all off her father is the DA of the neighboring county that we live in. So she thinks she can do anything and get away from anything. I really think their are mental health issues here and I don't believe mediation would work but of course I would do anything at this point to have peace.
End of story is we feel we are not safe or at peace in our home. I feel now our children will never be able to ride their bikes in our culdesac. We feel forced to try and sale our home in this horrid market just to get away from these people.
Why is it the crazy get their rights before the victim?
Re: Neighbors~ one is a habitual liar and spouse is violent
the housing market being down is the only thing stopping us from moving...I'm sick of fighting the fight I just want to do what's best for me and mine...and what's best is peace and quiet...
But hey, to those that want to tough it out, God bless you.
Re: Neighbors~ one is a habitual liar and spouse is violent
Oh yes, the vast majority of liars will trip themselves up pretty quickly, it's pretty easy to make up a decent lie about a single event, but you start lining up a series of events over a course of time it gets harder and harder.
We made the same decision as Missy, we love our 'hood, our neighbors and friends, we are staying, the other party is the one nobody wants around, they'll leave eventually...God willing the housing market will pick up...
Re: Neighbors~ one is a habitual liar and spouse is violent
Wow, I would not want neighbors like that! My experience in life though is that liars will trip themselves up in a fairly short amount of time. What I mean is that whether or not you realize it, there are probably other neighbors that question these people's credibility to some extent. A person with a serious problem like compulsive lying most likely lies constantly, to anyone and everyone who will listen. That would require an exceptional memory on their part to keep all their stories straight and they probably not going to be able to pull that off if they are so "busy" trying to torment your family. I don't know what to suggest, I'm not sure how long you have lived near them and put up with the BS. I don't know if you lived in the neighborhood first or if they did but if you have been there longer then you likely formed some neighborhood friendships and in that case these people will be unable to damage your reputation in the cul-de-sac because residents will already know you to be a normal, regular family. This neighbor of yours sounds like my neighbor in the way that I think their objective is to run us out of the neighborhood. I know we're not going anywhere, we've been here 20 years now, but depending on the ages of your kids, you may not want the stress of living near them because your kids are likely feeling that stress too (to a point). Also, with your neighbors being mentally unbalanced, you would have to be wary at all times as to what they might do, you can't trust crazy. So, ultimately, you have to decide if this is bearable or not and no one else can tell you what's best. I have always felt that I would never quit a job, or move away, for the reason of getting away from a person I dislike, but now that I too am having problems with unbalanced neighbors, I know first hand how much they can upset me and occupy my thoughts a lot more than I would like and that is what I resent the most, the power they have to get to me, I would like nothing more than to have THEM move out of the neighborhood. I have made my decision though- I love this location, this house, and I'm not going to be chased out of here, my kids are grown now and although they still live here, they don't give a hoot about these neighbors and just do their best to avoid the old bitch. Anyway, I wish you luck with whatever decision you make, and keep in mind the fact that they will have to answer to their behaviour at some point in life, they will be caught, just don't know when.
Re: Neighbors~ one is a habitual liar and spouse is violent
Why, through all this time, after the phone calls, the violent behavior and all that have you not filed for a restraining order? You should. A cop saying "don't talk to them" does little, you need to go to the courthouse, with any documentation you have (hopefully you are cataloging this behavior) and request a restraining order. In all likelihood you will be granted a temporary restraining order, they will be notified and then it's up in the air. From the sounds of it, it seems like they'd fight it, but who knows...
If they fought it, they'd go to court, lie some more, if you can CATCH them in the lies in front of the judge, the judge will see it, otherwise, he'll likely grant restraining orders to both sides (if your neighbors seek one, most do) then you still have yours...